I filled out some personal profiles online today. I made one for LavaLife (in the intimate encounters section ^_^), and was in the process of filling out the best profile on Fark personals and it told me server error. Here’s what it says to me:
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I guess the reason I’m really pissed off is I wanted to send a message to this one super cool chick that I found there. All I read was her profile and I was impressed with her responses. I’m pretty sure that her mailbox is probably inundated with messages from would-be Romeos, but I was so convinced of our matching interests that I would have paid money for it. Yes, I would have paid for this dating service. It seems kind of lame but this is what my life has lead me to.
…Anyways, enough about that. I want to talk about empathy. I want to try and figure out why this most powerful emotion seems to be malnurished in our cynical society. I have some thoughts on why that is, and what can be done about it. It seems pretty egotistical to claim that I have answers people are looking for, yet at the same time I don’t really think that I have any answers. All I really have are questions. Questions about life and the Universe around us.
I suppose that mentality, the Universe around us, is quite outdated. Generations have passed since it was first revealed through science that we are not in the center of the universe, that we are in fact in a galaxy that’s expanding at a phenomenal (relative) rate away from the point of the Big Bang, where it all went down. However, it’s my belief that as huge as the Universe is, as mysterious and savage as the space surrounding us can be, we should probably remember that relative to us and our goals as a species we might as well be at the centre of the Universe. I mean why the hell not? I don’t see anything else out there. Sure there’s lots of theories, but I’ve never seen anything concrete. It’s a subtle shift – that mentality. When you think about earth and it’s insignificance when compared to the rest of existence out beyond our threshold and then place us at the center, then it brings about a greater sense of purpose, of deeper meaning than just our day to day idles. It’s as invigorating as it is depressing. Why is it depressing? Do I really have to answer that?
Empathy is a powerful emotion. It takes a certain frame of mind, but it’s fundamental for spiritual experience. If you believe that you can grow as a person, then you should try and exersize some of these mental muscles. Why am I always advocating the act of thinking? Well thinking men don’t fight, they debate. Debating never led to weeping mothers. Discussing never orphaned any children.
The key to empathy is self exploration. Introspection. How can you know somebody else if you don’t even know yourself? And there’s lots of benefits from knowing someone else – perspective is one, camraderie is another, respect is a third. I don’t think anybody can convince me that it’s better off not knowing anyone at all. That just seems almost selfish.
I also think that some people out there won’t get this message. They won’t understand why the hell anyone would care about another’s suffering. You can classify these people as being defficient in empathy, it’s really that simple. Almost like it’s split down the middle, half on one side, half on the other, or at least that’s the way it seems to me. The only way to deal with these people is to try and talk to them anyways, despite their reluctance. Eventually they probably will get the message, it just takes some longer to process.
I suppose all of this must sound rather religious at times. I don’t really know what to say about that – I’m not a religious person in the traditional sense of the word. I know I said earlier that I’m a bright, yet after close inspection I don’t know how much like that I really am.
I’m tired. I gotta somehow find more time to write, I would be lying if I said I wasn’t enjoying it. Gnight all.